Five Simple Tricks To Getting Your Life Back On Track

 

The Simplicity Lifestyle

Five Simple Tricks To Getting Your Life Back On Track

1. Figure Out Your number one Self-Care Habit

When life gets busy, taking care of yourself is often the first thing to suffer. Between deadlines at work, raising kids, and being active in your community, finding time for you can be tough.

What’s your one thing? Whatever it is, make it a non-negotiable priority in your life. Schedule it into your calendar, and stick to it no matter what. Remember, you can’t take care of those around you if you don’t first take care of yourself.

2. Decide Which Burner to Turn Off

Imagine that your life is represented by a stove with four burners on it. Each burner symbolizes one major quadrant of your life.

1. The first burner represents your family

2. The second burner is your friends.

3. The third burner is your health.

4. The fourth burner is your work.

The Four Burners Theory says that “in order to be successful you have to cut off one of your burners. And in order to be really successful, you have to cut off two.

That leaves you with two options.

The first is to choose a more balanced life and accept that you’ll never reach your full potential in any one of the quadrants. The second is to go all out in one area at the expense of one the others.

If you dream of going to the Olympics or creating the next Google, turning off two burners is how you’ll get there. If not, turning off one is plenty.

But how do you decide which one to turn off?

You need to get clear on what’s most important to you. Six months or a year from now it might be different, but focus on what matters most to you in this moment. Once you know what that is, you’ll know which burner to turn off.

If work is most important, health and family might come next, which means friends are out of the picture for now. Turning a burner off might be hard, but you’ll know in your gut which one has to cool for a while.

3. Create Foolproof Systems

Instead of setting goals, you need to focus on creating systems.

I finally understand the importance of creating foolproof systems. You don’t have to think, you just do. How is this helpful? Surely operating on autopilot kills creativity?

It’s actually the opposite. When you avoid decision fatigue, you free your brain up to focus on the important stuff. Whatever that is for you.

These systems also act as insurance. I won’t say you’ll never forget something, but the chances are a lot slimmer than they are when you’re in Whack-a-Mole mode.

Write down all the things you need (and would like) to get done on a daily basis. Some, like brushing your teeth and driving to work, are already ingrained. It’s the things you keep forgetting that you need to install systems for.

Those systems can be simple. I kept forgetting to write in my gratitude journal before going to bed, so I started placing my journal on my pillow after making the bed in the morning. Problem solved.

Think about how you can use this tactic in your own life. For example, do mornings always run late because the kids can’t find their stuff? Have them pack their bags and leave them in the hall before bed.

Are you always misplacing things? Give everything in your house a place. When you get home you hang up your car keys on the hook behind the door.

The idea is that eventually, all these things will become rote activities. When you reach that point, your brain is on autopilot. The chance of you forgetting something is close to zero.

4. Get Help When You Need It

Asking for help is tricky, especially for us women. Men hate asking for directions, but we hate asking for pretty much anything. It's ridiculous. I mean, why wouldn't you get some help when you need it?

Help can be anything from employing a cleaning service to hiring a babysitter to paying someone to do your taxes for you. It doesn't matter.

The important thing is that you ask for help when you need it. Trying to do everything on your own will drive you crazy. Also, it's a surefire way to keep your life in a constant state of imbalance.

If you can’t afford to pay for the help you need you could always barter with friends and family. We all have different skills to bring to the table. You might be great at admin, while someone else in your clan is a food prep maestro. Perhaps it’s as simple as agreeing to carpool your kids so everyone has at least a couple of mornings free.

Think about how that could work in your immediate family, your friendship circle, and even among work colleagues. We’re all different, but one thing the majority of us have in common nowadays is a shortage of time. Teamwork makes the dream work.

5. Breathe, Let It Go, and Enjoy

Regardless of how well you plan or how many systems you have in place, things will sometimes go awry. It could be a blocked drain, a fender bender, a bout of flu, or whatever.

What’s important is how you respond to these situations. You can either argue with reality (and lose) or you can breathe and let it go. Accept that you’re behind on your day, and make the best of it.

When you’re so focused on balancing everything, it’s easy to take life a little too seriously. Remember to give yourself free time to relax and regroup.

Downtime is as much a part of getting a balanced life as being productive is. Take a trip, get a massage, or go to a movie, whatever appeals to you. You’ll come back more balanced than you left.